Dear Pongo,

I hope you can help me here. The other day, I set off for work in my '92 4Runner leaving my husband in the house watching the TV as usual. I hadn't driven more than a mile down the road when the engine conked out and my SUV shuddered to a halt. I walked back home to get my husband's help. When I got home I couldn't believe my eyes. He was in our bedroom with the neighbours daughter. I am 32, my husband is 34, and the neighbours daughter is 22. We have been married for ten years.

When I confronted him, he broke down and admitted that they had been having an affair for the past six months. I told him to stop or I would leave him. He was let go from his job six months ago and he says he has been feeling increasingly depressed and worthless. I love him very much, but ever since I gave him the ultimatum he has become increasingly distant. He won't go to counselling and I'm afraid I can't get through to him anymore.

Can you please help?

Sincerely, Sheila

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Dear Sheila:

A 4Runner stalling after being driven a short distance can be caused by a variety of faults with the engine. Start by checking that there is no
debris in the fuel line. If it is clear, check the vacuum pipes and hoses on the intake manifold and also check all grounding wires. If none of these approaches solves the problem, it could be that the fuel pump itself is faulty, causing low delivery pressure to the injectors.

I hope this helps,
Pongo
Moderator, Toyota Forums

I think you should tret him softly and also consult some doctors as he might get depressed, you should have patience and try to be normal with him

My "EX" wife suffered from depression. If your husband seeks help, then IMHO, your marriage has hope.

If you plan to keep your vehicle and the problem isn't too expensive, you might want to keep it. If the cost is excessive, you may want to think of upgrading to a newer vehicle. I had spent $2500 on a trans rebuild on an older Nissan suv then a loud ticking noise developed in the engine. With over 185,000 miles on it, I traded it in on my current 03 Tacoma double cab.

Good luck on both issues.

awww man that sucks im srry about that :( i agree with trinitybrown, just be patient and hopefull things will work out